TAKEAWAYS FROM TODAY’S CALL
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Spotlights Dating Camp 8-20-19
Yael
Celebrating Showing up to an event and went by myself.
Moved away from energy suck
Yael – 53
Look search criteria 48 – 62, Jewish, Non-smokers, dont want kids
Match, Okay Cupid, JWed, Jswipe. . . .
One search at a time NY = See how many come in that universe
Phoenix
New Jersey
Seattle
Boston
Action Item:
MEMORIZE
I am loving, curious. . .
Feel: Safe, celebrated, supported, seen and connected.
Lightness and some fun!!!!
Think UP!!!! Own your success!
Be DO Have
Thought, Speech and Action
I have two main questions:
- My pipeline has slowed to a trickle. I have messaged all men and women in my age range in PHX, Boston, NY, Chicago, Portland, Seattle, NJ with little to no response from anyone. I have been going to events and getting out and not yet meeting anyone. I’m continuing to search online for events and to try news sites and cities. What other things would you suggest?
- I have met a few “near misses,” or men with whom I share values, visions, and goals but to whom I am not attracted OR men to whom I am attracted and share values but we are at different stages of life (they want children and I don’t). How can I use these situations to sharpen my vision of what I’m looking for in a mate?
I am doing way better at shutting down the narcissists. I’m definitely attracting a better quality of person, and the self-absorbed folks get the message and leave me alone.
The event this weekend, my friend who died . . .
I still do believe that HaShem is bringing me my one, and that I have to do my part. So I continue to put myself out there even though I don’t yet see how this will all work out.
There’s a part of me that feels like guilty. . .
Yael Challenge Your Thinking:
If I could just fix them, they would love me.
Is it your job to fix them?
I can only fix myself!!!! (shift my thinking, change, adjust)
Not my job. . .
Theirs to fix themselves. . .
You’re fired!!!!
- I was at an event with someone who wouldnt stop talking and was self-absorbed.
- She’s wounded in some way. I feel like it’s my job to be there for here. Why is it my to be there for her. I can see how wounded she is. I’m there. That’s it. . .Why is your job to be there for her? When I walk away I’m not compassionate and I’m bad person. . . Nobody loves them. *** I’m unlovable. *** THIS IS A LIE!!!
- Horrible, hopeless, alone, disempowered, tired–what’s the point. . . .
- I don’t feel lovable. . . I can think my way there. . . . (gathering evidence. . . ) I have to love myself first before any one is going to meet my needs. . . You were always were. . . You were a human little baby. . and it wasn’t your fault. The fact that my parents. . . *** The key to the kingdom **** I have a right to have my own needs!! I want attention, snuggles, a bed time story. . .I am lovable and when is someone . . .It must begin. The inner criticism. . .
- Softer! Sadness (not in a bad way). . . calm!! (Yes this what is!!)
What would be possible is a connected life!!!!
Rosy
Great weekend, grand-nieces bday. . .