Quiz – Meet To Marry – Membership Area

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Answer the questions truthfully. Don’t answer with what you think is the right answer! It’s really important to get clear about where you really stand at this moment in time.

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1. Do you believe you will meet your ideal spouse? [i4w_db__Doyoubelieveyouwillmeetyouridealspouse]

a. Yes, I am sure I will meet my ideal marriage partner because I am open, warm, and trusting of myself and my judgment. I have faith that timing is a critical element in life, so I put myself in favorable situations.
b. I believe I will, but it will take time, patience, and a lot of hard work.
c. I think any two people can be right for each other, if they’re both willing to work at it.
d. I guess it’s possible, but I’ve had a lot of bad experiences.

2. Are you clear about the kind of relationship you would like to have and the kind of person you would like to marry? [i4w_db__Areyouclearaboutrelationship]

a. Yes, I’m clear. I have clear vision of the future I’d like to create, how I’d like to feel in a relationship, and the kind of person I’d like to marry. I know myself well, including my values and emotional needs.
b. I have a pretty good idea but could use some more clarity about how to know if someone is right for me and if I’m truly marriage ready.
c. I know exactly what I want. I’m looking for someone of a certain age with certain interests, and I will not deviate from that mold. Why should I?
d. I don’t really know what I am looking for, so I give everyone a chance, but no one is ever right.

3. Do you make dating a priority? [i4w_db__Isdatingapriority]

a. Yes, since getting married is one of my life goals, dating is a top priority for me. I allot time every week in my calendar even though I am very busy. I do this as I would with any activity that is a priority in my life.
b. I am very busy, so I squeeze in dating and dating activities when I can, which causes my dating to become sporadic and inconsistent.
c. I am not comfortable with “scheduling” dating time and dating-related activities. I believe that it will just happen organically.
d. I can’t remember the last time I went on a date.

4. Do you spend time with former spouses, girlfriends, boyfriends, or dates that didn’t work out romantically? [i4w_db__Doyouspendtimewithformerspouseetcwhodidntworkout]

a. Spending time with former dates and exes can clog me up energetically. If a date tells me “let’s just be friends,” my position is that I am committed to finding my future spouse and the father or mother of my children, so friendship at this time is not an option.
b. I spend time with friends of the same gender, but sometimes if a date doesn’t work out, that person may become a friend.
c. I have a lot of friends who I formerly dated, and I even give them advice about dating. I think it’s fine. You never know if things will turn around.
d. Former girlfriends/boyfriends are fun to spend time with, and they keep me busy while I’m looking for “the one.”

5. Do you have closure on past relationships? [i4w_db__Doyouhaveclosure]

a. Yes, all my relationships from the past are closed books. We have gone our separate ways.
b. There is one former love who I still think about occasionally when I feel lonely, but there is nothing there.
c. I can’t seem to let go of a past love, so I keep the door open just in case.
d. I don’t want to close the door with an ex because you never know what could happen.

6. Do you feel good about yourself and how you present yourself to the world in terms of your attitude, clothing, grooming, etc.? [i4w_db__Doyoufeelgoodaboutyourself]

a. Yes, I do. I take care of myself and do my best to feel healthy, be happy, and to present myself in the best light possible. I know that if I feel good about myself, I will radiate positivity and attract good things in my life.
b. I feel pretty good about my appearance, but I could definitely do some more in terms of presentation. If I did, I’m sure I would feel more self-confident.
c. I feel insecure in several areas, and I’m sure it keeps my energy low. I could use some advice, but I don’t know where to begin.
d. I’m happy the way I am, and I don’t have time to pay attention to such things. Someone will just have to like me as I am.

7. How would you classify your life these days while you are single? [i4w_db__Howwouldyouclassifyyourlife]

a. I have a full and happy life in all areas with a great support system of friends, family and interests. My life will be complemented and all the more complete when I meet my ideal spouse. In the meantime, I continue to develop myself and prepare to welcome him/her into my life when it happens.
b. My life is complete in most areas, but I do feel a little frustrated about this “I’m still single and everyone else is married” thing.
c. I feel somewhat lonely and depressed. I wonder what’s wrong with me and if I’ll ever find the one and get married.
d. I hate being single. I really question my lovability. I need to meet someone.

8. I believe I can meet my ideal marriage partner in the following ways and under the following conditions: [i4w_db__IbelieveIcanmeetmyidealmarriagepartner]

a. I am open to meeting someone in a variety of ways. I am open-minded and don’t judge different venues based on past experiences. I understand that my future spouse is also searching for me and our paths may cross in unexpected ways, including through internet dating, introductions, a chance meeting or at a random event.
b. I’m open to different possibilities, but I have had some bad experiences at various events, so I won’t go to them anymore.
c. I only date by introduction and don’t trust the internet. I’ve only met losers on the internet and I don’t talk to strangers. I don’t want to expose myself.
d. I believe my ideal mate will find me somehow, so I don’t have to put myself out there.

9. I am serious about finding the one, so I handle dates as follows: [i4w_db__Iamseriousaboutfindingtheone]

a. After first speaking on the phone to establish whether or not we have similar visions, common values, and/or life goals, I agree to meet for coffee for a first date. I give my date my full attention even if he/she is not a match.
b. I meet dates for dinner and am a pretty active listener, but if after a while I feel he/she isn’t the one, I drift off or just talk about myself.
c. I don’t have a format for dating, so it could be dinner or a movie, and at the end of the date I keep things vague so I can think about the situation later.
d. If I’m not interested in my date or it drags out too long, I look around the room to see who else interesting might be there. This way, it isn’t a waste of time.

10. I want to get married now because: [i4w_db__Iwanttogetmarriednow]

a. I’ll be a great spouse! I know myself very well, understand what I am looking for in a marriage partner and can clearly envision the kind of life I want to create. I am genuinely ready to share my life with someone in a wonderfully committed and loving relationship.
b. The time has come where I feel I want to share my life with someone and experience what it would be like to take care of someone else and to be taken care of.
c. I think I am ready and want to take the leap into new waters.
d. I hate being single. I really question my lovability. I need to meet someone. I don’t want to be alone anymore, and I just hope it’s not too late for me.