ONLINE DATING ESSENTIALS
Welcome to How to Search on Dating Sites & Evaluate Profiles.
We have an amazing process at Meet to Marry for evaluation Dating Profile in a way that leaves you feeling relaxed and empowered.
You have a major advantage! You have worked very hard to get clear about who you are and what you need and want from a relationship – and you have a profile that is super, super clear! Now you’re going to invite people to take a look at it to see if it resonates.
As you begin to search, you’re going to encounter other profiles that perhaps aren’t as clear. They didn’t have the advantage of learning how to create a profile that is clear and amazing. This is going to become VERY obvious!
In this session, I am going to help you on how to navigate through the Dating Site and how to screen profiles. It’s a lot easier than it sounds! Ready? It’s time to take the next step into your personal dating empowerment!
Action Items:
- Watch this special workshop about searching on Dating Sites. This session is about searching on Match.com.
- Create a universe of people within 25-50 miles of where you live. Choose age range, religion and other lifestyle and vision items and see how many are in this universe. This will be the search results you work with. Later on, once you’ve exhausted where you live, you can search a different area. We start with low hanging fruit first. (Don’t open it up to an area too wide (i.e., more than 100 miles) as the algorithms don’t work well that way. Instead choose a different city and search within 25-50 miles and check to see if they are open to relocation.
- Once you have your universe of profiles (note how many), search by “My recently online” and start to view profiles. Allow a minute per profile.
- Look to see if you’re attracted by looking at the photos and have mercy since the photos are probably not so great.
- Then read what the person has written and read between the lines to see if they might share your vision and values. Know that as an Empowered Dater you’ll be screening regardless.
- See what they are looking for, where they live and get a sense.
- If you want to learn more, send an email invitation inviting the person to view your amazing profile (since yours is complete and tells the whole story) using this format:
Joe,
I really enjoyed reading your profile, especially that you also [love dogs], [sound really funny], [also are connected to your church/synogogue], — add anything you feel is relevant.Check out my profile and if you like it, send me a message and let’s speak.
Warmly,
Your first name - Send out at least 20 (preferably 30) messages and see what responses come back.
** Remember that you’ll get back about 2, 3 or messages since that’s how the numbers work. The more messages you send, the better - When it comes to dating sites, you’re not concerned about who emails you, but rather those who reply to the emails you sent. If someone of interest emails you, great! You can put them in your pipeline. But don’t stress about responding to the unsolicited messages as most (not all) will not be great matches.